Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

Nonviolent Communication was developed in late 70s by Dr. Marshall B. Rosenberg who was a Clinical Psychologist in USA. It is based on the principles of nonviolence-the state of compassion when no violence is present in one’s heart.

With NVC we learn to hear our own deeper needs and those of others. Through is emphasis on deep listening to ourselves as well as others. NVC helps us to discover the depth of our own compassion. This language reveals the awareness that all human beings are only trying to honor universal values and needs.
NVC skills
  • Differentiating observations from one’s evaluations/judgements.
    One’s ability to carefully observe what is actually happening (facts) in his or her surrounding with total mindfulness of his or her possible evaluation/judgements about the incident.

  • Differentiating feelings from thoughts.
    Being able to identify and express internal feelings in a way that do not imply judgment, criticism, blame or guilt.

  • Connecting with the real need/value behind one’s actions.
    Being able to recognize the real universal human need/value which someone attempts to fulfil by a particular action. Identifying the universal need/value in you which is being met or unmet in relation to what is happening and how you are feeling.

  • Requesting compassionately with total mindfulness of what you really want.
    Ability to request what we really want clearly and specifically in a manner that the other person is not motivated by fear, shame, obligation, guilt or social norms but by natural compassion and the sense of contributing to another person’s well-being.

  • Self-Empathy.
    Ability to fully connect with what is happening in you; your evaluations, thoughts, feelings and needs in relation to what is happening in your surroundings.

  • Empathy
    Ability to connect with what is happening in others; their possible evaluations, thoughts, feelings and needs in relation to what is happening in their surroundings.

  • Honest Expression
    Ability to express honestly what is happening in you in a manner you do not blame, criticize or burden others and you take responsibility for what is happening in you.

NVC stands as the core thematic focus of all our work. In fact the very inception of the organization took place as a result of our founder, late Lourdes William’s personal passion and commitment to popularize Marshall’s teaching in Sri Lanka in late 1990s.